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Mary MacFarlane's avatar

Does anyone remember the name of the podcast Busy was recently a guest on? 💜

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Mikalene Torpea's avatar

I too am so frustrated.

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Joules's avatar

Listened to the pod and had all the feels. Came here to relate and respond, but got no spoons. So yes, same same, solidarity sis and I love you both xx

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tab's avatar

this is so not related to anything on this episode or even really busy/caissie, but I cannot randomly post this on Samantha's ig 😂. I have been reading meaty since I got it from the library hold list and as a lady who has crohns, I did not know how much I needed to read her crohns section. I don't discuss it with anyone and never really felt the urge to, but I was also diagnosed at 25, I also had intestinal issues as a child that had my aunt and uncle calling me "poot baby" for literally all of my childhood and no one took me to a Dr. I am also a childless lady who has Destin on hand at all times. there was so much random overlap in her story. 😂😂 I just didn't know how much I needed to relate to someone about all these weird life forming things.

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Karen B.'s avatar

Listening now and I’m nodding my head in regards to Busy’s stance on marriage. I am married . Happily? Debatable 😂 should my marriage take a path unknown, I would definitely not marry again. I wish I had been told there were other relationship paths that are valid. I was the oldest daughter and pushed towards the marriage and children track harder than my sisters. Yes I made my own choices and hindsight is 20/20. I would teach my kids love and relationships however expressed are valid. Some people can happily be with the same person for 100 years and some relationships can their course after 3-5. Breakups or relationships ending are not a sign to being unlovable or broken. As long as decisions were made with emotional maturity and understanding , their happiness is important. Because something is hard doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be done.

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Macy's avatar

I was also nodding my head along to the marriage discussion. I've never been married. I am in a long-term partnership with a man, and he has kids from a previous marriage, so I co-parent with him and his ex. A LOT of people seem to expect me to marry him, but I honestly can't think of a single way in which it would benefit us. He does not want to be married again, and I don't want to be married either. Among other reasons, keeping our finances separate has made our relationship sustainable, and we don't plan to have kids together...

It works for us. And I know legal marriage works for some people, but it's so frustrating that the world makes it so difficult (and expensive) to create families without what is essentially a financial contract supporting the patriarchy.

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Hattie's avatar

My sister and I were not at all pushed towards the marriage and kids by our parents... As a result my sister is unmarried to her long time partner - I always refer to him as my brother in law because I mean he is basically.

I got married at age 42 - largely because it makes tax returns less annoying in France!

Neither of us have our own kids, I have a stepdaughter.

Personally - I would say to girls particularly that unless you have a burning desire to be a mother, don't get married and don't have kids! Get a good education, find a way of earning money that enables you to enjoy your life, and find yourself a handful of likeminded friends to plan your retirement commune with.

I love my husband and stepdaughter but my life was definitely easier before they became permanent fixtures. If this marriage takes an unexpected turn - I will not be remarrying anyone or, to be honest, be tempted by another relationship. I will get a dog/another cat.

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Nicole Wojcik's avatar

So, I was one of the 9,000 people that saw Busy's Insta story before she took it down and I wanted to put it on record to back Caissie up, that I was just looking at her face the entire time and did not notice she flashed her boobs accidentally. When she posted the other story about her snafu I was so confused because I literally had no idea that happened and I had watched it. Maybe I'm just not observant? 🤣 But I do think Caissie is right, Busy is so captivating I didn't even think to look anywhere else but her face! Love you both 💜💜💜

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