I wanted to Busy know we had an issue with our teen in the London airport! My oldest has a different last name (first marriage). So we got flagged since our names didn’t match in the London airport. I didn’t have any signed paperwork from my ex...luckily we had our diplomatic passports and showed how we all were on the same travel authorization/credentials...but it was definitely a moment of panic.
There is nothing more tangible than something unexpected. When the unpredictable happens we are drowned and consumed and swallowed by it. The cacophony is all we see. The haze is all we hear. Everything becomes inverted as we navigate the unknown. Yet, everything is this way. We are no more able to predict the depth of our next breath than we are the roll of a six sided dice. We can plan all we want and then watch as the sands shift beneath our feet. We thought we were on concrete. We were not. My daughter, who also goes to school thousands of miles away fell ill at the start of 2020 and as panic ensued I realized she was in the best possible country for this to happen and not my own. yet, 6 months earlier, she herself protested enough for everyone to be convinced that her being in Europe was not going to happen. Yet, there she was. Being attended to by a health care system designed toi help her, not profit from her emergency. I remember years ago, decades ago, when the internet was looser, and booking flights was precarious business. My ex-wife used my British card to pay for an American domestic flight and had not realized until check in. She expected to be told she could not travel to see me as I lay wounded from an attack. But the charge went though and the ticket was waiting for her and she traveled to see me. She was so overwhelmed by what she called the 'randomness' of my being stabbed, and I reminded her of the same chaos that made it possible for her to be at my bedside. All of the chaos and order we perceive is unpredictable. The steps we take can be measured to the inch, yet a single thought can distract us enough to make us wobble. There is no randomness. The good and the bad, and the right and the wrong; are equally unexpected and frankly all I hear is JOY when your voices share your views of yourselves in the big, bad, beautiful world. I am grateful for what I have found. Thank you. And please, be aware of the beauty that causes the chaos and the beauty it produces; as you are both a part of it. As am I.
What a beautiful compliment. Thank you. If you like that then allow me to expand: If anything your awards season, gold shoes, cocktail party, holiday dinner party, BTS conversations radar will be alerted to: Yes, Chaos produces the need for the garage door in the first place. It also makes the garage door fall. It also makes you say "Don't get crushed". Chaos also makes sure your son is safe. When I refer to chaos though, it is not some nebulous anti-deity that people feel is reconciled and even partially quantified by a butterfly's wings causing El Nino and stock market crashes. No, I refer to an idea that was most recently touched by the first woman to win a Fields medal. She died having brushed against a very simple idea about this Chaos- it is the coming together of weak nuclear force, strong nuclear force, gravity, and electromagnetism (Hawing's building blocks from A Brief History of Time). They come together and produce beautiful and terrible things all at once and sometimes simultaneously. Yes, the medical emergency an ocean away. Also the last 3 seats on the plane. Or the friendship with someone older who knows their way around a medical emergency. The Chaos, the things the universe is built from, is what we all experience daily, as we hurtle through space and hope for kindness and glee. So, the reason why it is not more prevalent in our thinking, this breakthrough in The theory of Everything? The late Maryam Mirzakhani, who contemplated abstract surfaces and L-Sections (3d geometry) is Iranian. That, is chaos in action. As is (I repeat) the emotional resilience you all show by sharing what you do, as you do, Chaos creates both the beautiful and the ugly. I am glad you like it. I will keep that in mind as I write the 2nd part of the thesis that introduces my deeper, larger thesis. :)
I freaked when I heard Busy say she doesn’t want to do the pod anymore. On Wednesday’s I get into my car and say “yay I get to hang with my friends today” and sing song it while I get the pod hooked up. It’s a bright spark in the middle of my “working for the man” week. I do understand tho, life is hard. 2023 has truly been a troubling year...to say the least. Obvi the pod won’t go on forever, I always get sad when things end, more so than I should, I realize. I hope it doesn’t end. You both are so wonderful! Happy Christmas to you!
I really appreciated the friendship and mutual support in this ep. Did Busy really say she might not want to do the pod anymore? I was afraid that was coming. Caissie, you say so many wise things, but the comment about the sitcom guy saying “WHAAAAT NOW?” described my entire life right now. 💚
Just wanted to share some advice for Cricket - getting your period at an unexpected time/location sucks in the moment but it makes for a memorable story as you get older. My first time was at Universal Studios. Second time was at a professional baseball game the same week I was at horseback riding camp. I’m 43 now and still remember both.
That IS very memorable. I was at home, after school. But I remember it because my Nana called both neighbors on our street and told them for some reason? BIG NEIGHBORHOOD NEWS!!!
Oh my goodness 🫢 nothing like family sharing the big news. I feel like my period has been with me for all the big moments of my life. Like it’s just a fact that if something important is happening I’m going to have my period. Wedding day, honeymoon... my 10 year wedding anniversary is next year and I know that no matter when we plan a trip my period is going to make an appearance 🫠
Thank you both so much for sharing so much of yourselves with us. I wanted to thank you for the pax ad, which feels silly, but you addressed a lot of my vape concerns. I’ve benefited from using cannabis for my anxiety & helping me to relax in the evenings. But I felt like I had no idea what I was sucking into my lungs. Anyway, thank you! Sending so much love to you all & everyone else in this lovely community!
Sending much love to Busy and family at this hard time. And always to you too, Caissie. Not that you need our permission AND of course we understand any breaks anyone needs to take at any time. 💛💛
Just being adjacent to a lot of trauma has made this a hard year for me. Lots of friends dealing with death, house fires, cancer etc. I’m so lucky it hasn’t hit closer to my home but I feel deep empathy for those who are experiencing the worst. My friends, Busy and Caissie, all the Besties and THE WORLD needs a better freakin 2024!
I missed y’all last week and appreciate that we got to hear from you both this week despite the chaos. I’ve been so grateful for the pod and although it would definitely leave a void, I can certainly understand if it has become too much right now. As a social worker, I do worry for Busy, and I hope she soon finds peace and comfort in whatever form will work for her. If the podcast does end, I hope it won’t be the end of hearing from you, Caissie. I seriously don’t know how we managed to live without your awesomeness pre-pod and I don’t want to return to that life! ❤️
100000% cosigned! If Busy can't keep up with the pod (for all the very legitimate reasons or just if it's not for her!!) PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAASEEEE do your own show, Caissie! We need you and your real, raw, kind, honest insight. And so many other adjectives. We know you have a wonderful and talented circle of friends and hearing you chatting with any of them would be so great! Even if it is temporary and Busy is just needing a break. You've become such a welcome voice of reason and humanity!
Sending love to Busy and her family. Wishing health (and answers!) to Birdie and also, congratulations to Cricket (though it maybe doesn't feel like a congratulations type thing) on getting her first period! Busy sounds like she has lived a hundred lifetimes in 2023, hoping for a calmer 2024 for her.
And Caissie, I am so glad your garage did not badly hurt your sweet boys! I totally understand the 'what if' fears after the fact. Wishing you a merry Christmas this year Caissie - I am sure you will have sad moments as you honour your mum's anniversary but I also hope you find some of the joy of the season again this year xx
P.S. sad fact that I weirdly know, 999 (uk) is the emergency number because on an old rotary phone it was the second hole next to the finger stop so easy to find in the dark / smoke etc - 0 was closest and that was the operator so everyone was able to locate that easily.
P.P.S. 112 is now a common number across europe for emergency services - 999 and 112 both work in the uk. Just in case anyone is visiting this side of the world at any point!
I relate so hard to having a bad, unrelenting year. This year has felt like that for me, dealing with unexplained infertility, and recently family member death and illness. Hard Candy Christmas feels like the right song to describe the season. Also LOL'ed about the Minnesota/Montana snow comment, as someone who lived in MN for a decade and lives in MT now, spot on, constantly falling snow is a thing. Except for this year...we need more!
Thank you Busy & Caissie for sharing your vulnerability and finding joy and laughter within the madness of our relentless lives! Take as long of a break as you need, Biz, we will be here when you’re ready to come back and share with us again. Love you both and happy holidays. ♥️ 🎄 🥂
I hope things get better for Busy soon. I was sad to hear her say she doesn't want to do the podcast anymore. Maybe a break until the new year would do her good (even though all her Besties will miss our Wednesday dose of content).
This weeks pod is really hitting home for me. My mother, aunt, & 2 uncles were supposed to leave for Israel 10 days after the fighting started. Their trip was cancelled of course but it caused me such anxiety to think what would have happened if they had left earlier and were already in Israel at the time. Made me so grateful as well.
I hope Busy finds some balance and peace and wants to continue the podcast because I would really miss it but I also respect whatever decision she needs to make for herself and her health and happiness.
Thank you, Busy & Caissie for always being honest and raw in the pod and for making so many of us feel less alone out here.
Happy holidays to all who are celebrating and love to all.
I wanted to Busy know we had an issue with our teen in the London airport! My oldest has a different last name (first marriage). So we got flagged since our names didn’t match in the London airport. I didn’t have any signed paperwork from my ex...luckily we had our diplomatic passports and showed how we all were on the same travel authorization/credentials...but it was definitely a moment of panic.
There is nothing more tangible than something unexpected. When the unpredictable happens we are drowned and consumed and swallowed by it. The cacophony is all we see. The haze is all we hear. Everything becomes inverted as we navigate the unknown. Yet, everything is this way. We are no more able to predict the depth of our next breath than we are the roll of a six sided dice. We can plan all we want and then watch as the sands shift beneath our feet. We thought we were on concrete. We were not. My daughter, who also goes to school thousands of miles away fell ill at the start of 2020 and as panic ensued I realized she was in the best possible country for this to happen and not my own. yet, 6 months earlier, she herself protested enough for everyone to be convinced that her being in Europe was not going to happen. Yet, there she was. Being attended to by a health care system designed toi help her, not profit from her emergency. I remember years ago, decades ago, when the internet was looser, and booking flights was precarious business. My ex-wife used my British card to pay for an American domestic flight and had not realized until check in. She expected to be told she could not travel to see me as I lay wounded from an attack. But the charge went though and the ticket was waiting for her and she traveled to see me. She was so overwhelmed by what she called the 'randomness' of my being stabbed, and I reminded her of the same chaos that made it possible for her to be at my bedside. All of the chaos and order we perceive is unpredictable. The steps we take can be measured to the inch, yet a single thought can distract us enough to make us wobble. There is no randomness. The good and the bad, and the right and the wrong; are equally unexpected and frankly all I hear is JOY when your voices share your views of yourselves in the big, bad, beautiful world. I am grateful for what I have found. Thank you. And please, be aware of the beauty that causes the chaos and the beauty it produces; as you are both a part of it. As am I.
I love that way of thinking. Chaos produces beauty too.
What a beautiful compliment. Thank you. If you like that then allow me to expand: If anything your awards season, gold shoes, cocktail party, holiday dinner party, BTS conversations radar will be alerted to: Yes, Chaos produces the need for the garage door in the first place. It also makes the garage door fall. It also makes you say "Don't get crushed". Chaos also makes sure your son is safe. When I refer to chaos though, it is not some nebulous anti-deity that people feel is reconciled and even partially quantified by a butterfly's wings causing El Nino and stock market crashes. No, I refer to an idea that was most recently touched by the first woman to win a Fields medal. She died having brushed against a very simple idea about this Chaos- it is the coming together of weak nuclear force, strong nuclear force, gravity, and electromagnetism (Hawing's building blocks from A Brief History of Time). They come together and produce beautiful and terrible things all at once and sometimes simultaneously. Yes, the medical emergency an ocean away. Also the last 3 seats on the plane. Or the friendship with someone older who knows their way around a medical emergency. The Chaos, the things the universe is built from, is what we all experience daily, as we hurtle through space and hope for kindness and glee. So, the reason why it is not more prevalent in our thinking, this breakthrough in The theory of Everything? The late Maryam Mirzakhani, who contemplated abstract surfaces and L-Sections (3d geometry) is Iranian. That, is chaos in action. As is (I repeat) the emotional resilience you all show by sharing what you do, as you do, Chaos creates both the beautiful and the ugly. I am glad you like it. I will keep that in mind as I write the 2nd part of the thesis that introduces my deeper, larger thesis. :)
I freaked when I heard Busy say she doesn’t want to do the pod anymore. On Wednesday’s I get into my car and say “yay I get to hang with my friends today” and sing song it while I get the pod hooked up. It’s a bright spark in the middle of my “working for the man” week. I do understand tho, life is hard. 2023 has truly been a troubling year...to say the least. Obvi the pod won’t go on forever, I always get sad when things end, more so than I should, I realize. I hope it doesn’t end. You both are so wonderful! Happy Christmas to you!
Happy Christmas to you, Lynn! Thank you for spending time with us. xoxox
I really appreciated the friendship and mutual support in this ep. Did Busy really say she might not want to do the pod anymore? I was afraid that was coming. Caissie, you say so many wise things, but the comment about the sitcom guy saying “WHAAAAT NOW?” described my entire life right now. 💚
Just wanted to share some advice for Cricket - getting your period at an unexpected time/location sucks in the moment but it makes for a memorable story as you get older. My first time was at Universal Studios. Second time was at a professional baseball game the same week I was at horseback riding camp. I’m 43 now and still remember both.
That IS very memorable. I was at home, after school. But I remember it because my Nana called both neighbors on our street and told them for some reason? BIG NEIGHBORHOOD NEWS!!!
Oh my goodness 🫢 nothing like family sharing the big news. I feel like my period has been with me for all the big moments of my life. Like it’s just a fact that if something important is happening I’m going to have my period. Wedding day, honeymoon... my 10 year wedding anniversary is next year and I know that no matter when we plan a trip my period is going to make an appearance 🫠
Thank you both so much for sharing so much of yourselves with us. I wanted to thank you for the pax ad, which feels silly, but you addressed a lot of my vape concerns. I’ve benefited from using cannabis for my anxiety & helping me to relax in the evenings. But I felt like I had no idea what I was sucking into my lungs. Anyway, thank you! Sending so much love to you all & everyone else in this lovely community!
Oh, Marisa, that makes us so happy that you found the info useful. And we hope you try Pax & love it as much as we do!
Sending love also to those on this thread also going through a hard time. 💛🙏🏻
Sending much love to Busy and family at this hard time. And always to you too, Caissie. Not that you need our permission AND of course we understand any breaks anyone needs to take at any time. 💛💛
Just being adjacent to a lot of trauma has made this a hard year for me. Lots of friends dealing with death, house fires, cancer etc. I’m so lucky it hasn’t hit closer to my home but I feel deep empathy for those who are experiencing the worst. My friends, Busy and Caissie, all the Besties and THE WORLD needs a better freakin 2024!
I missed y’all last week and appreciate that we got to hear from you both this week despite the chaos. I’ve been so grateful for the pod and although it would definitely leave a void, I can certainly understand if it has become too much right now. As a social worker, I do worry for Busy, and I hope she soon finds peace and comfort in whatever form will work for her. If the podcast does end, I hope it won’t be the end of hearing from you, Caissie. I seriously don’t know how we managed to live without your awesomeness pre-pod and I don’t want to return to that life! ❤️
100000% cosigned! If Busy can't keep up with the pod (for all the very legitimate reasons or just if it's not for her!!) PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAASEEEE do your own show, Caissie! We need you and your real, raw, kind, honest insight. And so many other adjectives. We know you have a wonderful and talented circle of friends and hearing you chatting with any of them would be so great! Even if it is temporary and Busy is just needing a break. You've become such a welcome voice of reason and humanity!
Sending love to Busy and her family. Wishing health (and answers!) to Birdie and also, congratulations to Cricket (though it maybe doesn't feel like a congratulations type thing) on getting her first period! Busy sounds like she has lived a hundred lifetimes in 2023, hoping for a calmer 2024 for her.
And Caissie, I am so glad your garage did not badly hurt your sweet boys! I totally understand the 'what if' fears after the fact. Wishing you a merry Christmas this year Caissie - I am sure you will have sad moments as you honour your mum's anniversary but I also hope you find some of the joy of the season again this year xx
P.S. sad fact that I weirdly know, 999 (uk) is the emergency number because on an old rotary phone it was the second hole next to the finger stop so easy to find in the dark / smoke etc - 0 was closest and that was the operator so everyone was able to locate that easily.
P.P.S. 112 is now a common number across europe for emergency services - 999 and 112 both work in the uk. Just in case anyone is visiting this side of the world at any point!
Seasons greetings to all xx
I relate so hard to having a bad, unrelenting year. This year has felt like that for me, dealing with unexplained infertility, and recently family member death and illness. Hard Candy Christmas feels like the right song to describe the season. Also LOL'ed about the Minnesota/Montana snow comment, as someone who lived in MN for a decade and lives in MT now, spot on, constantly falling snow is a thing. Except for this year...we need more!
Katie, I'm sorry it has been such a tough year for you too. Gonna put you on the list of people to whom Santa should deliver a friggin' break.
Thanks so much Caissie! Putting you and your fam on the same list! ❤️
Thank you Busy & Caissie for sharing your vulnerability and finding joy and laughter within the madness of our relentless lives! Take as long of a break as you need, Biz, we will be here when you’re ready to come back and share with us again. Love you both and happy holidays. ♥️ 🎄 🥂
I hope things get better for Busy soon. I was sad to hear her say she doesn't want to do the podcast anymore. Maybe a break until the new year would do her good (even though all her Besties will miss our Wednesday dose of content).
This weeks pod is really hitting home for me. My mother, aunt, & 2 uncles were supposed to leave for Israel 10 days after the fighting started. Their trip was cancelled of course but it caused me such anxiety to think what would have happened if they had left earlier and were already in Israel at the time. Made me so grateful as well.
I hope Busy finds some balance and peace and wants to continue the podcast because I would really miss it but I also respect whatever decision she needs to make for herself and her health and happiness.
Thank you, Busy & Caissie for always being honest and raw in the pod and for making so many of us feel less alone out here.
Happy holidays to all who are celebrating and love to all.