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I found motherhood to be lonelier as they get older because we protect them and their privacy more and so it is hard to share with others. For example, this week my kids have been sick, one very sick, and that is an alone that I realize is also scary and lonely, like other people care and want to help if I told them what to do, but when I cannot figure out how to help the situation myself the primary person scrambling is me. I am the primary decision maker in places where any uncertainty exists and that is the part I want to share- it isn’t the physical duties!
Happy Belated Michelle Williams Day! Sorry I"m late, but I didn't listen to the podcast until Saturday and yesterday, I was busy essentially doing nothing. So I'm scrambling to catch up today while a pot roast bubbles away in my slow cooker.
It's a treat to listen to three people who are so comfortable with each other. There is obviously a lot of love in this group and it's fun to be able to hear it in peoples voices. It's also refreshing to hear that good friends can give frank advice to each other and that it's not a bad thing. This is something I think that more of us could learn from.
The discussion on phone use resonated a lot with me. I thought back a to when one of my nieces was attending college in Pittsburgh and she'd come over once a week or so for a free meal and to do her laundry. This discussion is kind of dated in these days of unlimited plans, but when it happened, I had just received my phone bill and mentioned that I needed to be careful because I'd made 20 texts in a month on my "100 Free Texts" plan. My niece laughed at me and told me that she had over 1000 texts and I couldn't fathom how first, you'd know enough people to have over 1000 texts and second, that you'd know 1000 texts worth of stuff. She was the only person I knew who over a visit could drain her phone's battery and have to recharge it. Now, I still don't have many texts, but I can put a drain on my battery as I check social media and I think I'm the worse for it. This last week was especially bad when it came to checking twitter. But it wasn't because I was checking on whether anyone was being charged with a crime, it was because the college basketball transfer portal opened and my alma mater's team still didn't have a head coach. Last year we hired a new head coach. Turned out we did not choose well and things went badly. So badly that the university had to make the choice to cancel more than half the season. So this year, we're hiring a new coach and will have to essentially start over (again) and we are at the point where a lot of that work happens and we just weren't ready. On Friday morning, the dreaded "high placed sources" hinted that an announcement would be made later in the day, but since it wasn't "official" there was no timing for the announcement and I had to bring out a spare power source for my phone as I frantically kept checking. Eventually our Athletic Director tweeted a picture of white smoke coming out of a Vatican chimney and we knew that we'd hired a new coach. Listened to his first press conference this morning and it sounds like we may have made a much better choice than we did last time. Or at least, I didn't have the feeling of dread I had last year when the last coach did his first press conference. Maybe our ship is righting.
Speaking of Twitter, did anyone else think it was funny that the date they announced for making changes to the way they control checkmarks was April Fools Day? Just seems fitting.
I also have one thought on the whole discussion of doctors visits and the need to pee into cups. I have to have lab work done twice a year and peeing in the cup is one of the most stressful things ever. First, you fast for 12 hours and you can't eat until after you pee in a cup and they take all your blood. So here was my routine. I'd wake up and as part of my normal morning, I'd go to the bathroom and then shower and dress and stuff so that I could get to the lab early and get it over with. The problem was, when I'd get there, since I"d just gone to the bathroom, when they handed me my cup, it was a 50/50 deal whether I'd had enough time since the last pee to produce another one. So I'd go to their restroom and give it a shot. Seems like the harder I'd try the less the chance of success became. This wasn't helped by the next person waiting to fill their cup rattling the door handle and knocking. Eventually I'd give up and go home and continue fasting while I drank a lot of water in the hopes that I could return and be successful. Finally one day, I asked probably the most important question I could. Since this was a health related test and not a drug test, did it really matter where I peed in the cup? Did it have to be at the lab? So I asked them if I could take the cup home with me. And they said yes. So now, I have sample cups in sealed plastic bags at my house. On the day I go in for lab work, I wake up, go to the bathroom, fill the cup at my house, seal it back in it's plastic bag and put it in a tote so that I can carry it to the lab. Makes it a lot less stressful. Could I cheat? Sure. But all it'd mean is I'd be hurting myself and since I'm not interested in doing that, I don't. I know this might be sharing too much of my life, but if you have a similar problem, it might be worth a shot to ask if your doctor's office or lab would give you a cup to take home with you. Keep it sealed and sterile and when the day comes, it may make things easier on lab day for you. I'd like to say that after that story I'll stop oversharing, but I probably won't.
Happy Spring every one. Hopefully the winds and the rain will ease sometime soon. Time for a shower and then it's almost pot roast time. Today's side dish will be roasted carrots.
Sorry to be off topic but are you going to advertise Each and Every again? I am ready to try it and your code doesn't work. I am sure there are other codes out there, but I would like you to get the credit ($) for the purchase since I won't have heard about it without you.
Whenever I have been in Chicago I can’t help but think of Adventures in Babysitting. It’s such a classic.
I also highly recommend watching Wendy and Lucy. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen it but it was such a heartbreaking movie. Michelle is honestly incredible in everything I’ve seen her in. I’m such a huge fan and loved hearing her on this episode! ❤️
Michelle is truely a gem. She’s just so thoughtful and kind. I hope she returns! Also have a young baby and getting to read books is nearly impossible but have noticed when I get better about my phone hygiene I magically have time for these things. It’s so true that it is robbing us of so much.
I think we forget that all the tech we use now is perfectly refined and calculated to get us to buy stuff. It's all capitalism. Guess what capitalism doesn't care about? Our health. It's wild how we feel like these phones are absolutely necessary and nothing existed before that when 15 years ago...15? is that right? the iphone debuted in 2008. yes we had cell phones previous to that but the iphone changed everything. On purpose. To sell stuff. ONLY to sell stuff, to be bought and to sell more. none of this was made with any regard to health. Ever.EVER.
I would LOVE to get Botox just like Busy’s, I frown so much I have these deep tunnels in my forehead. But a touch that light is probably not cheap. And I could maybe afford something from Groupon.
http://thescienceexplorer.com/brain-and-body/botox-inhibits-deep-emotions-and-ability-empathize I think it’s fascinating in terms of mirror neurons in that we can experience watching someone else doing something and it hits the same part of the brain that we use when we do the thing, so maybe not being able to make a sad face would hinder your ability to understand someone else being sad. Although I could use that because I feel like my emotions are just an open bear wire constantly.
Oh! And re the Venmo: he should have confirmed the time was ok with Busy by explaining about the card and charge when booking (unless this cancellation fee is super commonplace? I haven’t gone out to eat in forever lol) She did give him late notice...but I say he should have asked her Venmo it to him only if he was actually charged.
Does anyone else here follow Matchmaker Maria? She has hands down the best dating and relationship advice. I'm married but I recommend her to everyone who's single (I found her through a Greek comedy account I think?) She's New York based and I think she could provide some great dating guidance. https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermaria/
Wow. This pod hit me with all the feels. Every ounce of conversation was so deep (fun, hilarious, meaningful too)
Caissie, you CAN get Botox in your neck… and shoulders… and jaw. I had a whole consult. But you know $$$. And it does wear off. If it were permanent I’d inject all over.
The dating convo… really made me see how much I do want to date in the near future. I’m moving to a new city (Washington DC this summer!) and I’m excited to explore a new place and meet new people of all sorts. Really living through Busy and this likable kiss.
The family / house future vision talk close the end really helps me see how many of my visions have come true… and to continue hope and bouncing back for those yet to be. Bounce … bounce… more good can and will come.
So much appreciated for this one…. From the bottom of my heart.
Anyone else run into issues with the Mylio link? Curious to check it out and want to make sure the Pod gets the credit!! ("The page you requested could not be found. It’s possible it got messed up in development.")
Fantastic episode btw - what a gift for my rainy drive home from a (tough) work trip today. Listening to Busy, Caissie, & Michelle engage in real talk allllmost felt like having my own therapeutic catch up with dear friends. Those ladies have such a marvelous rapport--even with us listening in! 🙏💜
The house from Adventures in Babysitting is in my city and I JUST drove by it on Monday to see it to make myself smile. (So glad it hasn’t been torn down like everything else in the neighborhood!)
Never have I felt more seen than when Busy listed Adventures in Babysitting, Can’t By Me Love, Splash and Steel Magnolias as her defining movies from childhood.
I so relate to Busy not being able to date/see more than one person at a time. I’m also divorced in my 40’s and have never been able to talk to more than one guy at a time. I barely have the mental bandwidth to get to know one person at a time, let alone 2 or 3. Getting to know someone takes and deserves effort, if you ever want the relationship to be meaningful in some way.
I think Caissie must be talking about Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist, which has a similar storyline of finding the friend. Michael Cera and Kat Dennings.
Adventures in Babysitting holds up pretty well. I introduced my son to Keith Coogan over winter break, so we watched that and Don’t Tell Mom the Babysitter Is Dead.
I found motherhood to be lonelier as they get older because we protect them and their privacy more and so it is hard to share with others. For example, this week my kids have been sick, one very sick, and that is an alone that I realize is also scary and lonely, like other people care and want to help if I told them what to do, but when I cannot figure out how to help the situation myself the primary person scrambling is me. I am the primary decision maker in places where any uncertainty exists and that is the part I want to share- it isn’t the physical duties!
Happy Belated Michelle Williams Day! Sorry I"m late, but I didn't listen to the podcast until Saturday and yesterday, I was busy essentially doing nothing. So I'm scrambling to catch up today while a pot roast bubbles away in my slow cooker.
It's a treat to listen to three people who are so comfortable with each other. There is obviously a lot of love in this group and it's fun to be able to hear it in peoples voices. It's also refreshing to hear that good friends can give frank advice to each other and that it's not a bad thing. This is something I think that more of us could learn from.
The discussion on phone use resonated a lot with me. I thought back a to when one of my nieces was attending college in Pittsburgh and she'd come over once a week or so for a free meal and to do her laundry. This discussion is kind of dated in these days of unlimited plans, but when it happened, I had just received my phone bill and mentioned that I needed to be careful because I'd made 20 texts in a month on my "100 Free Texts" plan. My niece laughed at me and told me that she had over 1000 texts and I couldn't fathom how first, you'd know enough people to have over 1000 texts and second, that you'd know 1000 texts worth of stuff. She was the only person I knew who over a visit could drain her phone's battery and have to recharge it. Now, I still don't have many texts, but I can put a drain on my battery as I check social media and I think I'm the worse for it. This last week was especially bad when it came to checking twitter. But it wasn't because I was checking on whether anyone was being charged with a crime, it was because the college basketball transfer portal opened and my alma mater's team still didn't have a head coach. Last year we hired a new head coach. Turned out we did not choose well and things went badly. So badly that the university had to make the choice to cancel more than half the season. So this year, we're hiring a new coach and will have to essentially start over (again) and we are at the point where a lot of that work happens and we just weren't ready. On Friday morning, the dreaded "high placed sources" hinted that an announcement would be made later in the day, but since it wasn't "official" there was no timing for the announcement and I had to bring out a spare power source for my phone as I frantically kept checking. Eventually our Athletic Director tweeted a picture of white smoke coming out of a Vatican chimney and we knew that we'd hired a new coach. Listened to his first press conference this morning and it sounds like we may have made a much better choice than we did last time. Or at least, I didn't have the feeling of dread I had last year when the last coach did his first press conference. Maybe our ship is righting.
Speaking of Twitter, did anyone else think it was funny that the date they announced for making changes to the way they control checkmarks was April Fools Day? Just seems fitting.
I also have one thought on the whole discussion of doctors visits and the need to pee into cups. I have to have lab work done twice a year and peeing in the cup is one of the most stressful things ever. First, you fast for 12 hours and you can't eat until after you pee in a cup and they take all your blood. So here was my routine. I'd wake up and as part of my normal morning, I'd go to the bathroom and then shower and dress and stuff so that I could get to the lab early and get it over with. The problem was, when I'd get there, since I"d just gone to the bathroom, when they handed me my cup, it was a 50/50 deal whether I'd had enough time since the last pee to produce another one. So I'd go to their restroom and give it a shot. Seems like the harder I'd try the less the chance of success became. This wasn't helped by the next person waiting to fill their cup rattling the door handle and knocking. Eventually I'd give up and go home and continue fasting while I drank a lot of water in the hopes that I could return and be successful. Finally one day, I asked probably the most important question I could. Since this was a health related test and not a drug test, did it really matter where I peed in the cup? Did it have to be at the lab? So I asked them if I could take the cup home with me. And they said yes. So now, I have sample cups in sealed plastic bags at my house. On the day I go in for lab work, I wake up, go to the bathroom, fill the cup at my house, seal it back in it's plastic bag and put it in a tote so that I can carry it to the lab. Makes it a lot less stressful. Could I cheat? Sure. But all it'd mean is I'd be hurting myself and since I'm not interested in doing that, I don't. I know this might be sharing too much of my life, but if you have a similar problem, it might be worth a shot to ask if your doctor's office or lab would give you a cup to take home with you. Keep it sealed and sterile and when the day comes, it may make things easier on lab day for you. I'd like to say that after that story I'll stop oversharing, but I probably won't.
Happy Spring every one. Hopefully the winds and the rain will ease sometime soon. Time for a shower and then it's almost pot roast time. Today's side dish will be roasted carrots.
Keep doing your best, everyone.
Snowy weekend up here in WI, so I binged both Don’t Tell Mom and Adventures in Babysitting! My nine and eleven year old self loves me! ❤️
Sorry to be off topic but are you going to advertise Each and Every again? I am ready to try it and your code doesn't work. I am sure there are other codes out there, but I would like you to get the credit ($) for the purchase since I won't have heard about it without you.
Whenever I have been in Chicago I can’t help but think of Adventures in Babysitting. It’s such a classic.
I also highly recommend watching Wendy and Lucy. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen it but it was such a heartbreaking movie. Michelle is honestly incredible in everything I’ve seen her in. I’m such a huge fan and loved hearing her on this episode! ❤️
Michelle is truely a gem. She’s just so thoughtful and kind. I hope she returns! Also have a young baby and getting to read books is nearly impossible but have noticed when I get better about my phone hygiene I magically have time for these things. It’s so true that it is robbing us of so much.
I think we forget that all the tech we use now is perfectly refined and calculated to get us to buy stuff. It's all capitalism. Guess what capitalism doesn't care about? Our health. It's wild how we feel like these phones are absolutely necessary and nothing existed before that when 15 years ago...15? is that right? the iphone debuted in 2008. yes we had cell phones previous to that but the iphone changed everything. On purpose. To sell stuff. ONLY to sell stuff, to be bought and to sell more. none of this was made with any regard to health. Ever.EVER.
I would LOVE to get Botox just like Busy’s, I frown so much I have these deep tunnels in my forehead. But a touch that light is probably not cheap. And I could maybe afford something from Groupon.
Anyway on emotional regulation and Botox 2 viewpoints https://health.ucsd.edu/news/releases/Pages/2021-12-21-botox-injections-may-reduce-anxiety.aspx
http://thescienceexplorer.com/brain-and-body/botox-inhibits-deep-emotions-and-ability-empathize I think it’s fascinating in terms of mirror neurons in that we can experience watching someone else doing something and it hits the same part of the brain that we use when we do the thing, so maybe not being able to make a sad face would hinder your ability to understand someone else being sad. Although I could use that because I feel like my emotions are just an open bear wire constantly.
Caissie, what kind of shrooms???? Thank you
Oh! And re the Venmo: he should have confirmed the time was ok with Busy by explaining about the card and charge when booking (unless this cancellation fee is super commonplace? I haven’t gone out to eat in forever lol) She did give him late notice...but I say he should have asked her Venmo it to him only if he was actually charged.
Does anyone else here follow Matchmaker Maria? She has hands down the best dating and relationship advice. I'm married but I recommend her to everyone who's single (I found her through a Greek comedy account I think?) She's New York based and I think she could provide some great dating guidance. https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermaria/
Wow. This pod hit me with all the feels. Every ounce of conversation was so deep (fun, hilarious, meaningful too)
Caissie, you CAN get Botox in your neck… and shoulders… and jaw. I had a whole consult. But you know $$$. And it does wear off. If it were permanent I’d inject all over.
The dating convo… really made me see how much I do want to date in the near future. I’m moving to a new city (Washington DC this summer!) and I’m excited to explore a new place and meet new people of all sorts. Really living through Busy and this likable kiss.
The family / house future vision talk close the end really helps me see how many of my visions have come true… and to continue hope and bouncing back for those yet to be. Bounce … bounce… more good can and will come.
So much appreciated for this one…. From the bottom of my heart.
Awww c'mon who demanded the manicure? Based on absolutely nothing, my money is on Mindy Kaling or Kristen Bell.
This is a great pod and I haven’t even gotten to MW yet. So far:
-I loved Can’t Buy Me Love too. But my fav was St Elmo’s Fire. We didn’t have a VCR til way too late so I watched at friends’ houses
-I looked up the Future Oscar Winners clip and instead got a commentary from Corey Feldman about it which was even better
-If agreed on 6:30 Venmo ok; if didn’t agree on time Venmo refund
Thanks for being my favorite podcast!
Anyone else run into issues with the Mylio link? Curious to check it out and want to make sure the Pod gets the credit!! ("The page you requested could not be found. It’s possible it got messed up in development.")
Fantastic episode btw - what a gift for my rainy drive home from a (tough) work trip today. Listening to Busy, Caissie, & Michelle engage in real talk allllmost felt like having my own therapeutic catch up with dear friends. Those ladies have such a marvelous rapport--even with us listening in! 🙏💜
Wendy and Lucy is free on Peacock, Redbox, Tubi and Pluto and included with AMC+, according to my Roku.
Looks like it was Kristen Bell and a mason jar. https://people.com/style/kristen-bell-i-peed-in-a-jar-while-wearing-my-oscars-dress/
The house from Adventures in Babysitting is in my city and I JUST drove by it on Monday to see it to make myself smile. (So glad it hasn’t been torn down like everything else in the neighborhood!)
Never have I felt more seen than when Busy listed Adventures in Babysitting, Can’t By Me Love, Splash and Steel Magnolias as her defining movies from childhood.
Best friend in Adventures in Babysitting was played by Penelope Ann Miller!
I so relate to Busy not being able to date/see more than one person at a time. I’m also divorced in my 40’s and have never been able to talk to more than one guy at a time. I barely have the mental bandwidth to get to know one person at a time, let alone 2 or 3. Getting to know someone takes and deserves effort, if you ever want the relationship to be meaningful in some way.
I think Caissie must be talking about Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist, which has a similar storyline of finding the friend. Michael Cera and Kat Dennings.
Adventures in Babysitting holds up pretty well. I introduced my son to Keith Coogan over winter break, so we watched that and Don’t Tell Mom the Babysitter Is Dead.
this should be a national holiday!