Host of the podcast "Terrible, Thanks For Asking," author of many books including It's Okay to Laugh, The Hot Young Widows Club, No Happy Endings & her latest, Bad Vibes Only!
Caissie - i felt your worchestchire story so hard. I did something similar, I was making a brisket on xmas and I didn't have an onion. I drove everywhere and finally stopped at a chinese restaurant and asked for an onion - they graciously gave me one ;-) Also I laughed SO HARD at "nut restaurant."
I finally got the chance to listen to this! I love Gigi (met her on Tiktok!) and so happy to know that Caissie knows her as well 💜💜💜 Made me so happy to hear her name come up.
Also! Thought I would share, but Gigi's tumor came back and she set up a GoFundMe to get some financial support. (not sure if the link will work?)
As usual, I'm so glad I listened to the very end of the pod, because I would have missed the conversation about spending time with kids.
My kids are 14, 17 and 20 and I really struggle to know when they actually want to spend time with me, versus when they just want me to do things for them. Then I remember that I kind of setup that vibe! My love language is *very* "acts of service", and I like to do things for my kids. Helping them clean and cooking for them are two main ways I show them I care.
So yes, they want their independence and it feels weird when they don't want or need me around. But if they ask me to stay home so I can cook them dinner and we end up spending time together while I cook and while we eat together, then I think that's a win for all of us.
Sometimes I do feel taken advantage of, and it's hard to know where that line is. I often don't see that boundary until after it's been crossed.
Anyway... Loved that part of the podcast, it's yet another super relevant life experience you all shined a light on that I've never talked about with anyone.
Ruth, thank you for sharing your experiences. My kids are similar ages to yours and I appreciate hearing from parents of older kids. I feel like parenting advice and shoptalk drops off as the kids get older.
I knew it was going to be an emotions forward day for me when the xmas Eve Worcestershire sauce story got the tears rolling this morning. But later in the morning when they said their ADHD meds help them not hate themselves anymore, big ugly crying in the car. That is the overall biggest feeling I've had since starting a stimulant in July. I'm at peace with me when I always knew I was but couldn't find the feeling. It's because the unnecessary noise in my head that has been with me until I was 42 is quiet and hidden away behind the things that really matter. Love the open end honest conversations.
And show of hands, who is making a giant salad of some sorts tonight?
Caissie - i felt your worchestchire story so hard. I did something similar, I was making a brisket on xmas and I didn't have an onion. I drove everywhere and finally stopped at a chinese restaurant and asked for an onion - they graciously gave me one ;-) Also I laughed SO HARD at "nut restaurant."
We received two of the most beautiful holiday gifts ever given. The gift of forgotten ingredients.
It makes for a great story!
I finally got the chance to listen to this! I love Gigi (met her on Tiktok!) and so happy to know that Caissie knows her as well 💜💜💜 Made me so happy to hear her name come up.
Also! Thought I would share, but Gigi's tumor came back and she set up a GoFundMe to get some financial support. (not sure if the link will work?)
https://www.gofundme.com/f/another-dumb-tumor-in-my-face
It was so nice to learn that Nora lives in Arizona! I'm in AZ as well and just voted, yay!
Nora was fantastic! Instant follow.
As usual, I'm so glad I listened to the very end of the pod, because I would have missed the conversation about spending time with kids.
My kids are 14, 17 and 20 and I really struggle to know when they actually want to spend time with me, versus when they just want me to do things for them. Then I remember that I kind of setup that vibe! My love language is *very* "acts of service", and I like to do things for my kids. Helping them clean and cooking for them are two main ways I show them I care.
So yes, they want their independence and it feels weird when they don't want or need me around. But if they ask me to stay home so I can cook them dinner and we end up spending time together while I cook and while we eat together, then I think that's a win for all of us.
Sometimes I do feel taken advantage of, and it's hard to know where that line is. I often don't see that boundary until after it's been crossed.
Anyway... Loved that part of the podcast, it's yet another super relevant life experience you all shined a light on that I've never talked about with anyone.
Ruth, thank you for sharing your experiences. My kids are similar ages to yours and I appreciate hearing from parents of older kids. I feel like parenting advice and shoptalk drops off as the kids get older.
I wasn’t familiar with Nora. Now I want to read all of her books! New fan here. 👋
I knew it was going to be an emotions forward day for me when the xmas Eve Worcestershire sauce story got the tears rolling this morning. But later in the morning when they said their ADHD meds help them not hate themselves anymore, big ugly crying in the car. That is the overall biggest feeling I've had since starting a stimulant in July. I'm at peace with me when I always knew I was but couldn't find the feeling. It's because the unnecessary noise in my head that has been with me until I was 42 is quiet and hidden away behind the things that really matter. Love the open end honest conversations.
And show of hands, who is making a giant salad of some sorts tonight?
It made me so happy to see Nora on today! Read her book in a day and saw her in SF a week ago!
Was she part of litquake?
I just found out about her on this podcast. I feel it is where I find out most things lately and I am ok about it.
I don’t know about Litquake, but her podcast os called Terrible Thanks for Asking. She has 5 books and a well known Ted Talk!